During an interview with Good Morning America recently, Tamar opened up about her initial reaction to motherhood which wasn’t what people would think is normal (but happens often!). She revealed that she had a hard time connecting with her baby, which made her question if she was the wrong mother and if it was all a mistake.
I guess in a sense, I did feel unattached because I really really wanted to connect with him. I wanted to breastfeed and when he didn’t latch on and I couldn’t produce milk, I just felt like, ‘Is this the wrong child? Am I the wrong mother?’
I didn’t [immediately fall in love] but I loved him. It wasn’t like, “Oh gosh, yes! My baby! Ouuh!” It wasn’t like that! It was “What do I do now?”
She also said that she had very mixed feelings after giving birth, and that she dealt with jealousy because her baby had an instant connection with her husband Vince.
I was in shock and it took me a few days to come to terms with the fact that I am a mom and this is my baby.
I was questioning my motherhood. Is this a mistake that God made. Is this something I should hand over to my husband, because he connected with the baby instantly. And I was jealous pretty much.
When he finally latched on [while breastfeeding], I felt like, “He got me and I got him and this was all meant to be.
Tamar now looks at her child’s birth as a gift from God and the best thing that has ever happened to her.
I am very happy. I feel complete. He is the best thing that ever happened to me.
According to experts, a high percentage of women have the same experience as Tamar after giving birth but are afraid to tell anyone.